How to Deal with Children's Tantrums? Non-Punitive Approaches and Their Effects - Gaining "Learning Power" from the "Magic of Calming Down"

A child's tantrum is a sign of immature self-regulation, and reasoning often doesn't reach them. The key points of the HELLO! article emphasize teaching skills after the child has calmed down, focusing on "safety, calmness, and acceptance" according to their age, and discouraging punishment. Both the NHS and AAP suggest ensuring safety with brief words, supporting coping strategies like offering choices and deep breathing, and avoiding easy concessions to demands or habitual use of screens for calming. Research indicates that frequent use of tablets and similar devices for calming may lead to difficulties in anger management later in life. On social media, many share experiences such as "ignoring the behavior but not the child," "hugging and staying with them helped," and "picture books about emotions were useful." Rather than scolding, accompanying the child is a quicker path to fostering long-term self-regulation than achieving short-term quiet.